You don’t, you want more rights. You’re already equal
Name a right men have that women don’t.
walking down the street without fear of being raped because they chose to wear what they want or yknow just being objectified literally everywhere we go feeling like we have to apologize for our body and choices when we’re already viewed as sex objects
the best pranks are the super harmless ones
like why would you pull someones pants down in public or like put them in danger or humiliate them when you can just baffle them by leaving tiny plastic camels all over their house or taping bill cosby’s face over every single face in every picture in their house?
Last year the seniors had a mariachi band follow the principle for 3 hours
Confuse, don’t abuse ;)
One of my friends and I were the only two people to stay in our dorm over a holiday weekend. We stayed up late drinking too much caffeine and running laps around the units and got the idea to steal all the toilette paper from the storage rooms. We took it to our unit and started building a castle out of it. When we ran out, we started taking extra rolls out of bathrooms. Eventually we had every roll in the entire building used to create a castle big enough to walk into. We completed it and went to bed, awoken the next day by the bewildered laughter of our dorm-mates as they returned. People from different floors started coming by and filching a roll here and there, but no one seemed to want to really damage it, so it stood for a couple of days until the woman who restocks the supply closets saw it and insisted we put them away.
why do men I’ve never met before always tell me I look like a lot of fun I’m not fun I’m a hell demon who will ruin your life and make you question your sanity
unappetising said: If you ever wanted more proof that most men don't care about women my boyfriend of 4 years just told me in his "perfect world" I would have another man attempt to rape me every day just so he can come in at the last second and save me every time. When I asked why he would subject me to such traumatising events every day he said, "Babe, I would be saving you. I'm the hero & you'd love me more". We're not together any more. They just don't get it. Love your blog too.
While this is awful and appaling, it’s not at all uncommon. Your ex-boyfriend had a typical male power fantasy, where he gets to subjugate other males and win a woman as a prize. This kind of fantasy is spoon fed to them since they’re really young, by all kinds of media. Just look around and see how many movies and games, and even cartoons for young children, have plots based on a male defeating another male and taking a woman as a prize. It’s the classic “Damsel in Distress” trope.
Anita Sarkeesian, the scourge of doritos-covered sexist nerds everywhere, made three excellent videos covering specific iterations of this trope in video games. In these videos, she explains in detail how men are taught to see women not as peers, other human beings with a full range of emotions, but as interactive objects that will provide them with rewards (sex, affection, domestic labor) once they secure them from other males. Still quoting Sarkeesian, “In the game of Patriarchy, women are not the other team. They are the ball”.
This is exactly the kind of mindset your ex-boyfriend had. In his fantasy, he would win the “game” by defeating another male, probably by inflicting physical violence on him, and take you as a prize. This would make him feel more masculine, because masculinity is based on constant competition between all men, and in his mind it would also make you be grateful to him, because he didn’t consider you as a human being capable of trauma and mental distress, but as a damsel he must rescue, a princess in the tower that he, the mighty knight in shining armor, would yank away from her captors.
I’m just glad you’re not with this delusional piece of shit anymore.
//When I asked why he would subject me to such traumatising events every day he said, “Babe, I would be saving you. I’m the hero & you’d love me more”.//
Never trust a dude that wants to “play devil’s advocate” or debate your life experiences “for fun” or “to relax”. Because that dude has already decided that your life experiences are abstract ideas that do not require his acknowledgement or respect. That dude does not trust you with interpreting the shit that has happened to you in your life, and that dude is a dickhole.
Also that dude has literally told you that when he wants to relax he pokes at other people against their wishes. Don’t expect him to value your needs more in any other situation.
“that dude has already decided that your life experiences are abstract ideas that do not require his acknowledgement or respect.”
Yep. Just like when white people discredit the experiences of POC by claiming they are over-exaggerating their severity, isolated incidents, or by downplaying the effect they have on someone’s day to day life. The same goes for cis, hetero people and reactions to the experiences related by those who identify as LBGTQA, for anyone here in the US who isn’t a member of a Judeo-Christian religious tradition, and, really, for any minority when they are trying to point out the inequalities and injustices they suffer at the hands of the dominate culture.
And I say this as a white, cis, bisexual, feminist, agnostic atheist, humanist woman who is still every day learning to check her privilege because if you haven’t experienced something, how dare you presume to have a better understanding of it than someone who has?
So, if you find yourself starting to tell people how they should feel about or interpret their personal life experiences, I have some simple advice: